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All About Bonnie

About Me - The Not So Modern Housewife

I’m just your average, everyday mom. My house is a mess, my kids are dirty, and every day around dinnertime I wonder why the people in this house insist on eating three meals a day. I struggle to balance finances against the life I want to live, and I struggle with the fact that I will never measure up to the expectations of others.

I write for other women like me. In a culture of all-or-none, those of us who just want to do our own thing tend to get lost in the shuffle. We’re the thinkers; the ones who don’t follow along with an idea just because everyone is doing it. We rely upon our instincts; when society tries to tell us to think or feel a certain way, we know in our guts that it isn’t right. And we know that it’s ok to compromise; we want to be healthy, but we also don’t want to live a life of stress and guilt. Life is short, eat the donut.

What Makes Me Not-So-Modern?

I’ve always been told that I’m old fashioned. In my teens and early 20s, I was that strange girl who enjoyed gardening, canning, and baking from scratch. I guess you could say I was homesteading before I even knew what homesteading was. I’m a do-er. I like working with my hands, making things, and staying busy.

I’m also a gospel believing, conservative Christian living in the south. There are so many things in that one sentence that clash with everything the media wants us to believe about popular opinion. It’s a tough position to be in, and I often find myself not feeling comfortable expressing my opinion, especially with my friends and family. My relationship with them isn’t worth the argument.

But at the same time, I don’t think everything modern is evil. I’m addicted to my cell phone just like most people from my generation. I have satellite tv and internet. And while I enjoy camping, I have no plans to go 100% off grid. I need my air conditioning. I’m also too much of an introvert to live in a tiny house. I need my space.

I realize that some people will see me as a fraud, a walking contradiction. If being a purist is your journey, then more power to you, it just isn’t for me. And the thing is, that isn’t the journey for most people. When we start to live in extremes, and tell others that you have to live that way to be considered a homesteader, then what does that say to the person living in a HOA who just wants the freedom to plant a vegetable garden? We need to stop criticizing people for not living the lives we think they should live, and instead empower them to live the lives they want to live. 

A Few Things I Am Not:

I am not a vegan or vegetarian. We raise animals for milk, eggs, and meat. We butcher some of our own animals. Our larger animals go to a professional butcher. If you take issue with this fact, then this probably isn’t the page for you.

I am not 100% organic. While I do try to reduce the pesticides we consume and buy organic where we can afford it, I do have a budget to stick to and cannot afford to buy organic everything. I cannot afford to feed our animals organically either. I give my animals antibiotics and chemical dewormers when necessary. I still consider the milk, eggs, and meat from them to be better than store bought. And guess what, I still buy meat and milk from the store sometimes too.

I am not anti-vax. Yes, I’ve heard the arguments against vaccines. Really, I think it should be a personal decision. I don’t support mandated vaccines either. And while I do stick to the vaccine schedule for my kids, they don’t get the flu vaccine. I get it, but only because it’s required for my job.

I don’t do restrictive diets. First of all, there is no medical need that requires it for my family. I like food. Namely, I like food that tastes good. Several of those foods include sugar, gluten, and maybe even some GMOs. Again, I try to limit, but I’m not strict about it. It doesn’t mean that all I eat is junk food. You’ll see recipes on here for gluten-free and vegan dishes. Doesn’t mean I won’t eat them, but it’s not all I eat.

What You Will Find Here

  • Recipes – Mostly from scratch, but the reality is that sometimes we also need a quick fix. Even if I use a convenience item, I’ll try to offer a from-scratch option.
  • Animals – The animals make up a big part of our homestead (they certainly make up the bulk of our expenses). And they make up a big part of who I am. I’ve been raising and loving animals my whole life. I write about their care, use, and management. You can also see lots of pictures of them on Instagram
  • Cute Kids – My kids are my life, it would be difficult for me to not write about them. From homeschooling to just keeping them alive, they are what I do all day.
  • Self-Sufficiency – Yeah, I know, I said I don’t want to go off grid and live in a tiny house. That doesn’t mean I don’t want some independence in my life. My biggest focus is taking control of my food supply, but you may find me writing about financial freedom as well.
  • Emergency Preparedness – A lot of this ties into being self-sufficient, although maybe for a shorter period. While self-sufficiency is more of a lifestyle change, emergency preparedness is just about being ready no matter what happens. You don’t need to be running off of generator power and cooking over a fire full time, but you need to be prepared to do it just in case.

Now that you know what I’m all about, I hope you’ll stick around. Pour a cup of coffee (or a glass of wine) and enjoy the chaos that is my life. If you really enjoy what you read here, I hope you’ll also join me on Facebook and Instagram.


Thursday 21st of July 2022

Loved your bio. It's nice to find people who are unapologetic about thier thoughts and beliefs. What a bland world it would be if we were all the same.


Thursday 21st of July 2022

Thanks so much. :) It's not always easy to stand by my beliefs, but I have found that people are either going to decide to like me or they won't, so I might as well just be me and let them make their choices. Life is too short for fake people and fake butter.

Rick Mitchell

Wednesday 15th of June 2016

Glad to find your blog! I'm quite new to "homesteading" (like just 3 weeks into it) My mom's family is from the Clinton/Fayette/Ross counties area of Ohio, and until just 3 weeks ago, I lived about 500 ft from ODU! I'm looking forward to learning from reading your blog!


Friday 17th of June 2016

Small world! I've done some version of homestead for most of my life, but never knew it was called that. It's a fun adventure learning new skills or how to do old skills better. I'm always learning. Welcome!

Shanna Halfon

Saturday 4th of June 2016

Hi Bonnie, I found your blog on pinterest this morning. I am excited to find a Central Florida homesteader as many of the blogs I follow are in areas of the country that are so different from ours. I am in Volusia County and just getting my homestead started, so I will definitely be following you!


Monday 6th of June 2016

Hi, welcome to The Not So Modern Housewife! I hope I can help. I originally moved down here from Ohio, and couldn't believe how different it is to grow vegetables and even caring for the animals. Florida definitely has its challenges.

Fire Rose

Friday 23rd of May 2014

OMG! Are you in Marion Cty!? I live off 316 near Citra. I am trying to learn more about sustainable, green, historic methods of living. Right now, I live on my parents property and have a rather ambitious garden going. I just harvested some goodies for the first time yesterday. I know I won't be here long enough to go organic, but I am trying to rely on chemicals as little as possible. Granted, the damn sandhills eating my seedlings meant I wanted bird for dinner one night! I hope to learn from you, and maybe get a chance to meet someday! Heather


Saturday 31st of May 2014

I'm actually a little bit south of you in Hernando County. Thankfully, I don't have to deal with the cranes, but I do have deer, raccoon, squirrels and the occasional loose horse or goat. Fences are your friend. There are also lots of bugs. I usually use neem oil to keep them off. If you start out using organic methods, it's actually easier than you might think. I recommend trying heirloom seeds from a company like Baker's Creek. They tend to be more disease and heat resistant, which is also a big issue down here. This year, we were mainly focused on using up all of our old seeds so we can start fresh with heirlooms this fall. Our green beans did well, but we still struggled with everything else. Corn is almost ready to harvest. I hope we get to eat it before the bugs do. It's still an evolving process. Figure out what works for you. It may not be what works for me and vice versa. Good luck!